At marker 1:17 is one of the most radical teachings I have heard about a marriage relationship. Who should have the power, man or woman ? How is it to be shared ? By giving up power in favor of love.
Love does not coerce - it does not force, demand . . .
Love and Power are diametrically opposed.
Love= being vulnerable. The less you care the less you love and the more power you exercise.
So who should be in charge ? Nobody !
Let each esteem the other higher than themselves.
Mutual self sacrifice.
The answer: Both Surrender to God and put him in charge !
The ideal marriage: Outdo one another in Love
The secular alternative is power struggle:
50 Mio obnoxious men have found their match with the feminist movement that has produced 50 Mio obnoxious women.