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In this talk show Dr Laura suggests that women take some advise from hookers. A partial transcript can be found at https://thinkprogress.org/dr-laura-stands-by-her-man-comments-c9d02201e1c8#.p7tuy06yp
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Why is it that in our society we have plenty of sex before marriage and rather little in marriage ? And I think Christians are no exception. Maybe the problem is even as old as mankind. Paul didn't write his letter for no reason. So the questions must have come up. Lets see what Ray Stedman has to say: http://www.raystedman.org/new-testament/1-corinthians/sex-in-marriage Having said that marriage is a way of relieving sexual pressures, Paul now says something else very significant. He says sex in marriage is designed of God to teach us something about ourselves, and to fulfill a missing need in our partners. You see this in Verses 3-5: The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another[or to put it more bluntly, as the Greek actually does and as we read in the King James Version, "Defraud ye not one the other"] except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5 RSV) I say this by way of concession, not of command. I wish that all were as l myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. (1 Corinthians 7:6-7 RSV) The major thrust of that paragraph is telling us that sex in marriage is designed for the fulfillment of each partner. This is what the Song of Solomon so beautifully captures. We read a paragraph together from that this morning just to catch the flavor of that beautiful book, written to describe the exquisite ecstasy of sexual love within marriage. That is what that book is about. Unfortunately, Victorian squeamishness has so prevailed in the Church that most people do not know that. They think it is a book written to be an allegory about Christ and the Church. Well now, since marriage is that kind of an allegory, that is a legitimate use of that book, but it is not what it was written about. It was written to describe the courtship and wedding and subsequent married life of a young couple who before God were seeking to explore and discover all the beautiful relationships that God intended when he made our bodies different from one another, when he made our psyches different from one another, even our spiritual hungers different in male and female and brought the two together. ... Paul does not say to the husband and the wife, "Demand your own sexual rights." He never puts it in that way, and yet as a marriage counselor I can say that I have been involved in scores of cases where one of the major problems of the marriage was that one partner, usually the man, demanded his sexual rights from his wife. Nothing, perhaps, is more destructive to marital happiness than that .......giving license to the husband to demand sex whenever he wants it is to destroy the whole beauty of sex in marriage. ......you have the right to ...give him or her, as a gift from you, the fulfillment of these sexual desires -- and the responsibility you have is not to your mate, but to the Lord to do so. It is a matter that Paul puts on the basis of the relationship that a believer has with his or her Lord, and it is the Lord who asks us to give this gift to our mates in marriage, and thus to make it a basis of mutual fulfillment and satisfaction. In other words, sex in marriage is a gift that you are to freely offer to each other. It is not a selfish, self-centered satisfying of your own desire. If we understand that it is going to make a big difference in many marriages, and, if you reflect on it a moment, you will see why. I suggested last week that physical sex is given to us to teach us how to relate to one another psychologically, and how to relate to God spiritually, and this is true in this area. Sex is so designed that we have no control over it ourselves within marriage. We need another to minister to us, and that is designed of God in order to teach us how to relate and fulfill the basic law of life which Jesus put in these terms when he said, "If you attempt to save your life you will lose it," (Matthew 16:25, Mark 8:35, Luke 17:33, John 12:25). If you try to meet your own need, if you put that first in your life -- "I am going to have my needs met" -- the result will be that you will lose the joy of life and you will lose everything you are trying to gain. Instead of finding fulfillment you will find emptiness, and you will end your years looking back upon a wasted experience. You cannot get fulfillment that way. That is not merely good advice -- that is a law of life, as inviolable as the law of gravity. You cannot beat it any way you try. The only way to find your needs met and yourself fulfilled is to fulfill another's needs. Throw your life away, Jesus said, and you will find it. That is what sex is all about. It is designed not to have your needs met, but to meet another's needs. Thus, in marriage, you have a beautiful reciprocity. In the process of devoting yourself to the enjoyment of your mate, and to giving him or her the most exquisite sense of pleasure that you can, you find your own needs met. That is what is meant by Verse 4, "For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does," (1 Corinthians 7:4 RSV). That is not saying that you are slaves of one another. It is saying that the power to give fulfillment to your mate lies with you. He or she cannot fulfill himself or herself in this area. It is impossible. That is why sex with yourself, solo sex, is a drag. It does not go anywhere. It is a dead-end street. It is a momentary, mechanical fulfillment that leaves you psychologically unfulfilled. The only way those psychological fulfillments can be met is by your partner giving you the gift of fulfillment and you giving him or her the same gift.  This will give men some learning tasks as well. We all tend to expect a fair and generous exchange of favors.Dr Laura Schlessinger (1947) has a no nonsense approach to time proven values and common sense. Her straight talk to women makes her a champion of men as well, because she is quite critical of women. She has written many books and has a grateful following among women who found her words empowering and who have reaped the benefits of a better marriage and the adoration of their grateful highly motivated husbands. When you listen to her envision somebody who was a naughty girl when young during the Hippie era and a snarky sounding person like Joyce Meyer or Judge Judy. It's a teaching style to drive home some points while entertaining and offending an audience with some hard truths. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laura_Schlessinger .
I do recommend Dr. Lauras book "The proper care and feeding of husbands" as well as her website http://www.drlaura.com/blog?action=blogArchive&blogTag=Marriage For balance I should mention her marriage book as well and the critical reviews on Goodreads. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56156.The_Proper_Care_and_Feeding_of_Marriage This will give us men some improvement tasks as well. We all tend to expect a fair and generous exchange of favors. What may not have been addressed well enough may be baggage in form of long lists of past memories. The "U OWE ME". How do we start a new day with credits to our personal emotional bank accounts (Steve Covey). I recon there are 3 accounts that we need to look at. Two individual accounts (personal favors) and the 3rd one is a commonly held marriage account (we-account) where the couple pays agreed mutual contributions (Sound timeless principles). A big challenge is the account keeping where the bank has the last word on what the real balance is. Sometimes we men may be more eager to reap transformational benefits then our women are. Laura has abdicated the women's lib movement and is now a social conservative. The book also comes with a disclaimer that it is written for normal people and isn't applicable to women that have married a sociopath. Likewise I might add that the book will only be beneficial for women that fit the normal spectrum as they would otherwise insist on their sense of entitlements and fight the notion that they should read a book that could actually improve their life. A good way to get a grip on what's in the book is to watch the video "I'm busy, I'm tired .." followed by a video interview on the topic of "cheating husbands" , read the transcript here ! Now the next step is to introduce your wife to these online samples and then order the book.
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donald-trump-protester-speaks-out-i-was-paid-to-protest David Mikkelson, founder of Snopes.com, a website known for its biased opinions and inaccurate information they write about stories on the internet in order to generate advertising revenue, told ABC News that he approves of what a story like this is accomplishing. “You have to understand that when a story like this goes viral, and we spend a minute or two debunking it, we make lots of money. Stories like this have helped put my children through college, buy a new car, a home and even get the Silverback gorilla my wife Barbara always wanted since she was a child,” Mikkleson said. “We claim ‘to provide evidence for such debunkings and confirmation as well‘, but that’s just ridiculous. Do you know how much time that would take? Instead, we just copy and paste parts of the original article into ours, write a couple sentences, and that’s it. I just want to be clear, our website does zero journalism or anything creative, and I’m only telling you this for legal reasons. For example, do you remember that recent article we wrote debunking a story which claimed Scientology lost its tax-exempt status? Did you actually read our story? Who is the name of the person responsible for the hoax? What is the actual website URL? We claim to know it, but no real information is posted by us.” Mikkelson continues, “It is common for us to rewrite a story we’re debunking if we don’t like it. In one recent story of ours, we actually removed a person’s name from the original article and then called him a liar, oh the hypocrisy, but it is so funny at the same time! We also like to post fake, un-funny, juvenile disclaimers supposedly from the site in question and it is our authors, such as Jeff Zarronandia who are responsible for those gems. We tell our readers that the disclaimer is from the story we are debunking, but a simple google search that locates the actual article will show that our disclaimer is 100% fabricated. Sometimes I think that someone should start a company that debunks our debunkings, they could probably make a lot of money,” Mikkelson laughs. “And lots of people complain about our authors attacking websites and their owners for reasons that are 100% proven false, but since we block archive.org it just becomes their word versus ours. Plus, I know for our writers like Kim LaCapria, it is way more fun for them to cause controversy than report the facts; it results in more visitors. Kim LaCapria and Jeff Zarronandia go as far as accusing the site that the story originated from as ‘a clickbait fake news site that infringes the trademark-protected visual elements and domain names of legitimate news outlets in order to generate traffic and drive advertising revenues by creating and spreading entirely false “news” stories‘. The thing that is troubling about these claims and what Snopes and our authors are known for. We don’t list ONE factual piece of evidence to back up our claims; It’s just more of our hack, unethical journalism, and I only tell you this for legal reasons. I think it is business as usual for us to accuse the story we are debunking of spreading malware and viruses, but we never say what website it actually is. I think warning people about a site that could potentially destroy their computer is probably a good idea, and I hope one day to do that kind of ethical journalism, but people will click our ads regardless, bottom line; so why do the extra work? To be honest, I’d say in a given week I probably only do about fifteen minutes of real, actual, work.” http://abcnews.com.co/donald-trump-protester-speaks-out-i-was-paid-to-protest/ Dr. Laura's book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, is, like most of ... LauraSchlessinger has a genius for broadcasting: she's quick-witted and ...
You visited this page on 19/01/17.The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands Excerpt - Writers Write www.writerswrite.com/books/excerpts/propercareandfeedingofhusbands.htm The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura C. Schlessinger The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura C. Schlessinger ...www.goodreads.com/book/.../56157.The_Proper_Care_and_Feeding_of_Husbands Rating: 3.7 - 14,030 votes In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and ...Dr. Laura: The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands - The Dating Divaswww.thedatingdivas.com/dr-laura-proper-care-of-husbands/ Apr 22, 2011 - ... for ways to strengthen your marital bond with your spouse? Read this review featuring Dr. Laura's The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands! You visited this page on 19/01/17.Ten Things to Take From The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands ...blogcritics.org/ten-things-to-take-from-the/ Apr 26, 2004 - Dr. Laura Schlessinger has written another book that deserves a place on ... The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, from this unmarried ...Dr. Laura: The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbandswww.drlaura.com/pg/jsp/community/bookdetail.jsp?detID=-950235365937463723 In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and ...The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: A Christian Viewhttps://www.probe.org/the-proper-care-and-feeding-of-husbands/ Jun 2, 2005 - Talk show host Dr. Laura Schlessinger has written a book that is improving thousands of marriages: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands ... You visited this page on 19/01/17.The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands | Bible.orghttps://bible.org/article/proper-care-and-feeding-husbands Listen to The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands Audiobook by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, narrated by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands | Dr. Laura's Blogwww.drlaurablog.com/tag/the-proper-care-and-feeding-of-husbands/ Jun 6, 2013 - If it feels good to them, they'll do it. ... One of the letters in my book, The Proper Careand Feeding of ..... Main Site of Dr. Laura Schlessinger ...The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands - Women Writers www.womenwriters.net/winter05/ProperCareandFeedingofHusbands1.htm  Try looking at tomorrow not yesterday And all the things you left behind All those tender words you did not say The gentle touch you couldn't find In these days of nameless faces There is not one truth but only pieces My life is all I have to give Dare to live until the very last Dare to live forget about the past Dare to live giving something of yourself to others Even when it seems there's nothing more left to give Dare to live until the very last Your life is all you have to give – Vivere ! I will say no (I will say yes) Say dare to live - Dare to live !
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>vivere - dare to livecatchyadreams flagship blog. Topics include Business and marketing, webdesign, SEO, principles social topics, life and living, motivationals and tips. Try looking at tomorrow not yesterday And all the things you left behind All those tender words you did not say The gentle touch you couldn't find In these days of nameless faces There is not one truth but only pieces My life is all I have to give Dare to live until the very last Dare to live forget about the past Dare to live giving something of yourself to others Even when it seems there's nothing more left to give Dare to live until the very last Your life is all you have to give – Vivere ! I will say no (I will say yes) Say dare to live - Dare to live !
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